10 DISTINCT THINGS CONFIDENT PEOPLE DO DIFFERENTLY

by: Remie Longbrake | published: July 30, 2023

Truly confident people tend to get more done, compared to non-confident people who second guess themselves and their decisions time after time.

Your mentality has a powerful effect on your ability to succeed as seen in the results of a study at the University of California-Davis that showed that confident people earn higher wages and get promoted more quickly than others.

Confident people have a profound impact on those they encounter. Yet, they achieve this only because they exert influence from the inside outward.

1. Speaking with Certainty

It’s rare to hear confident people say phrases such as “Um”, Well I’m not quite sure” or “I think so”. Confident people speak assertively because they know that it’s difficult to get people to listen to you if you can’t deliver your ideas with conviction.

2. Seeking Small Victories

Confident people like to challenge themselves and complete, even when their efforts yield small victories. Small victories build new androgen receptors in the areas of the brain responsible for reward and motivation. The increase in androgen receptors increases the influence of testosterone, which further increases confidence and eagerness to tackle future challenges. When you have a series of small victories, the boost in your confidence can last weeks or months.

3. Exercising

A study conducted by Montana State University found that people who exercised twice a week for 10 weeks felt more competent socially, academically, and athletically. They also rated their body image and self-esteem higher. Best of all, rather than the physical changes in their bodies being responsible for the uptick in confidence, it was the immediate, endorphin-fueled positivity from exercise that made all the difference.

4. Not Seeking Attention

People are turned off by those who are desperate for attention. Confident people know that being yourself is much more effective than trying to prove that you’re important. People catch on to your attitude quickly and are more attracted to the right attitude than what, or how many, people you know. Confident people always seem to bring the right attitude.

Confident people are masters of diffusing attention. When they’re receiving attention for an accomplishment, they quickly shift the focus to all the people who worked hard to help get them there. They don’t crave approval or praise because they draw their self-worth from within.

5. Not Passing Judgement

Confident people don’t pass judgement on others because they know that everyone has something to offer, and they don’t need to take other people down a notch in order to feel good about themselves. Comparing yourself to other people is limiting. Confident people don’t waste time sizing people up and worrying about whether or not they measure up to everyone they meet.

6. Getting Happiness from Within

Happiness is a critical element of confidence, because in order to be confident in what you do, you have to be happy with who you are. People who brim with confidence derive their sense of pleasure and satisfaction from their own accomplishments, as opposed to what other people thing of their accomplishments.

7. Listin more than Speaking

People with confidence listen more than they speak because they don’t feel as though they have anything to prove. Confident people know that by actively listening and paying attention, they are much more likely to learn and grow. Instead of seeing interactions as opportunities to prove themselves to others, they focus on the interaction itself, because they know that this is a far more enjoyable and productive approach to people.

8. Take on Risk

When confident people see an opportunity, they seize it. Instead of worrying about what could go wrong, they ask themselves, “What’s stopping me?” and “I can do that!”, then they go for it. Fear doesn’t hold them back because confident people know that if they never try, they simple won’t succeed.

9. Are not Afraid to be Wrong

Confident people are not afraid to be proven wrong. They like putting their opinions out there to see if they hold up because they learn a lot from the times they are wrong and other people learn from them when they are right. Self-assured people know what they are capable of and don’t treat being wrong as a means for not stepping up.

10. Celebrate Other’s Wins

Insecure people constantly doubt their relevance, and because of this, they try to steal the spotlight and criticize other in order to prove their own worth. Confident people, on the other hand, are not worried about their relevance because they draw their self-worth from within. Instead of insecurely focusing inward, confident people focus outward, which allow them to see all the wonderful things that others bring to the table. Praising people for their contributions is a natural result of this.

In closing

Building confidence is a journey and not a destination. To become more confident, you need to be passionate in your pursuit of a greater future, whatever that looks like for you. Over time, and with practice and self-belief, you and genuinely be confident and truly empower others to be the same.