POLITE WAYS TO STAY CALM AND ENJOY THE HOLIDAYS WITHOUT THE POLITICS

by: Remie Longbrake | published: December 23, 2024

The holidays are a time for joy, family, and togetherness. But for many, the festive season can be overshadowed by political disagreements. Family gatherings, usually a time of warmth and connection, can quickly turn tense when differing political views clash, especially in today’s political landscape. It’s entirely possible, however, to navigate these potentially volatile situations with grace and maintain your relationships. This holiday season, let’s focus on fostering understanding and creating a peaceful atmosphere, regardless of political leanings. Here’s how:

First, remember that the holidays are about celebrating traditions and cherishing loved ones, not debating policy. Before heading into any gatherings, consciously shift your focus from political victories or defeats to the joy of the season. Think about the positive memories you associate with holidays past, and consciously aim to create new positive memories this year. This mindset shift will help you prioritize connection over conflict.

Second, practice active listening. When a political conversation begins, resist the urge to interrupt or immediately counter an opposing viewpoint. Instead, truly listen to what the other person is saying. Try to understand their perspective, even if you don’t agree with it. Asking clarifying questions, like “Can you tell me more about why you feel that way?” can help foster understanding and show that you value their opinion, even if you disagree.

Third, set boundaries and stick to them. It’s okay to politely excuse yourself from a conversation that’s becoming heated or unproductive. You could say something like, “I’d rather not discuss politics right now; let’s talk about something else.” Having pre-planned “escape routes” – a phone call to make, a dish to check on, or a game to start – can also be helpful. Prioritizing your mental well-being is crucial, and removing yourself from a contentious situation is a perfectly acceptable and healthy response.

Fourth, find common ground. Instead of focusing on what divides you, look for areas of agreement. There’s almost always something you can find common ground on, whether it’s a shared love of family traditions, a favorite holiday movie, or even a shared concern about the community. Focusing on shared values creates a more positive and less confrontational atmosphere.

Finally, remember empathy and forgiveness. Everyone has their own experiences and beliefs that shape their political views. Approaching conversations with empathy – trying to understand the other person’s perspective, even if you disagree with it – can help de-escalate tension. And remember that forgiveness is key, both for yourself and for others. If things do get heated, forgive yourself and forgive others for any missteps. The holidays are a time to let go of grudges and focus on building relationships.

This holiday season, let’s prioritize peace and harmony over political debates. By practicing active listening, setting boundaries, seeking common ground, and practicing empathy and forgiveness, we can create a more positive and enjoyable experience for ourselves and our loved ones. Happy holidays!